The Cottagers looked to be heading for an easy win after early goals from Dempsey and Duff, but the Canaries battled back with Wilbrahim's goal ensuring a nervy finish
The Cottagers went 2-0 up early on with goals from Clint Dempsey and Damien Duff, but as Pavel Pogrebnyak went off injured, Norwich began to claim a bigger foothold in the game, and some strong defending at the end held off the visitors after Aaron Wilbrahim's late goal.
"I have to say I have mixed feelings because in the first half we were prepared and started off well," Jol told reporters.
"They changed their system all the time, and they do that with a purpose which is not easy. We used the right tactics in the first half and there was a good balance between offensive and defensive play.
"So in the second half they changed the formation and almost forced us to double up on the flanks and go back, and we couldn't get out of it.
"If the balance is gone because your offence and defence, you get a problem, so we couldn't get out or hold the ball. Even in their half, five or six times we gave it away and should have kept it, and that is what they want.
"If you play in your own box all the time you give the opposition more chances to create, and that is why we want to play in the other half."
Jol also spoke about Pogrebnyak's injury, which forced him off in the first half, stating that they would know more in the next few days, though it looks as if he twisted his ankle in a challenge with Elliott Ward.
Norwich manager Lambert stated that his side deserved something out of the game for their "relentless" attacking in the second half, but conceded that his side had a mountain to climb after letting in two goals in the opening 20 minutes.
"We should have [got something from the game]," he told reporters. "We were relentless in the second half.
"But you can't give teams two goals at the start. It's a mountain to climb from there. But the response was absolutely terrific. We went about it and try to retrieve the game. In the second half I thought the lads were excellent.
"[The opening 10 minutes] was poor on our behalf. To lose a goal away from home really early is the worst start you can get and then there was another one not long after that.
"You're giving yourself a lot to do, but the performance in the second half was exceptional. You've got to hang in. The great thing for me was that we never capitulated which can happen when you lose two early goals. The football we played at times was excellent.
"Fulham are a good side, there's no two-ways about it. Not that long ago they were in a European final. I'm pretty sure everybody saw us give them a run for their money."
Lambert also praised debutant Ryan Bennett, who made two goal-saving tackles during the game, stating that he has a big future with the club.
"I thought Ryan Bennett did brilliantly in his first game," he added. "He's only played one reserve game for us, and I thought he was absolutely terrific. There's a belief in him to perform, and hopefully he's going to have a massive future for us.
"We've had a fantastic season, and we'll try and finish the job and put ourselves in a position to keep going."
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